@Sean 175 Gender has everything to do with it though, the horrible male character are literally glorfied while Lizzie is hated for a few things that makes her a saint compared to Damon, or literally any of the males in the Mikaelson family
They are not above nature unless they were heavily nature based or nature personified the rules of magic most likely don't apply to them but the rules of magic most likely do
So many other male characters in the TVDU did things that were so much worse than that and were forgiven bc they were sexy and hot but when a girl does it she is a bad person, plus people have always tried to make Lizzie worse than she was.