The Ties That Bind is the twelfth episode of the third season of The Vampire Diaries and the fifty-sixth episode of the series overall.


PERSIA WHITE GUEST STARS AS BONNIE'S MOTHERBonnie believes her recurring dreams about Klaus' Coffins will tell her how he can be killed. The dreams also lead Bonnie to a reunion with her mother, Abby, whom Bonnie hasn't seen for 15 years. At Abby's remote farmhouse, Bonnie and Elena meet Jamie, the young man Abby took in years earlier. Bonnie's sudden appearance catches Abby off-guard, but she does her best to explain the past. Tyler turns to an unexpected ally in his quest to regain his free will. Damon is intrigued by Alaric's new friend Dr. Fell, and Klaus continues his bitter negotiations with Stefan over control of the coffins containing his family members.



Main Cast

Recurring Cast




Body Count


Cultural References

  • "The Ties that Bind" is the title of a song by Bruce Springsteen in 1978. It has been widely used as names for series episodes, movies and books.
  • "Call Shotgun" is to ask to ride in the passengers seat besides the driver. It comes from the expression "Riding shotgun." In Western movies, if the carriage was carrying precious cargo or people, there would be an employee sitting by the coach driver armed with a shotgun or a rifle to deflect possible robbers. There is no solid evidence that this was a common practice during the time of actual stagecoaches.
  • "Heart to Heart" is a private, candid conversation, usually about personal problems or intimate feelings.

Behind the Scenes

  • This episode had about 2.71 million viewers in the USA.


Bonnie: "I know who can open the coffin Stefan." (She shows Stefan a picture)
Stefan: "Who is this?"
Bonnie: "It's my mom."

Bill: "Your sire bond with Klaus is putting my daughter in danger."

Klaus: "I will tear you limb from limb."
Damon: "You want what's in that coffin a lot more."

Elena: "Bonnie!"
Bonnie: (screams) "Let me out, please!"

Bonnie: "What's going on with you two?"
Damon: "We kissed. Now it's weird. Have a great trip!"

Klaus: "I want my family back."
Stefan: "Or what, Klaus?"
Klaus: "Or I will tear your heart out from your chest."
Elijah: "So, Niklaus "
Klaus: "Elijah?"
Elijah: "What'd I miss?"

Stefan: "You're better than him, Elena. You're better than both of us."

Meredith: "I'm not crazy, Ric."
Alaric: "Really, then what are you?"

Klaus: "Ah, right. Crazy Stefan. How's that working out for you? Any friends left?"

Damon: "Insulting a bunch of dead witches? Not smart."

Tyler: "I didn't mean to hurt you. I lost control. Again."

Bill: "To break the sire bond, turning needs to be painless. And from what I saw today, we're still a long way off."
Tyler: "I can't put myself through that again."
Bill: "You will. Because until you're able to act on your own free will, I'm not going to let you near my daughter again."

Bonnie: "Can we talk about you and Damon instead?"
Elena: "I'm not talking about it... He kissed me. It's not gonna happen again."
Bonnie: "I mean... was it good ?"
Elena: "Doesn't matter."
Bonnie: "That means it was."



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